My friend plans on getting married... He showed me the ring he plans to get his wife. The price made my insides twist. He told me he wants to get her something good. I don't think I could have sat there and really dug in on how insane it was considering the situation, but...this was only the engagement ring. It was $5,000. For an engagement ring. Then he plans to have a wedding that will cost around $20,000. This is not including the ring or the honeymoon. I'm not poor or anything, but...The total amount of this expenditure seemed to be around $45,000 in all. He kept talking and I talked along, but in my head I couldn't get a grip on it. Why would someone spend so much money on such things? Is it impossible to have a nice wedding without spending thousands of dollars? I always envisioned if I got married that we would have our wedding in a park somewhere. We'd have the grills going and it would be like a big picnic, except it was a wedding. We'd be eating, dancing, playing, and I'd have some firecrackers at night. I was even thinking of maybe renting a horse just for the kicks, no pun. I don't think this would cost more than 5 or 6 thousand. All the rest of that money would go into making sure we had a good start as a married couple. I'm not sure if this is a "cheap" thing to do, but it was wild that someone could spend so much money. Am I the only one or does anyone else believe a cheaper- not necessarily smaller- wedding can be just as good or better?