I agree. In your case I would not have sent a message to you anyway. If I see a player every day in my tavern why bother checking if they’re active when you already know.
But to be honest I aid and tavern sit and find no problem getting people to return my kindness. There are tons of people like us out there who are loyal to friends, so losing one because they unfriend you is no big deal. Easily replaced.
It is not hard at all to delete a message, a friend that gets pissed about that is likely not the person I am looking for - that’s just me though.
I you are active though, players won’t feel the need to do this. I don’t do this with players I know sit in my tavern everyday.
I meant the players at the top of the friends list. You can never be sure if everyone is active. If people don’t like the messages, they can easily be replaced by people like me who honestly don’t mind. It is not hard to find people to sit in your tavern.
I aid everyone on my list. But those that don’t return the favor are not on my list very long.
Then why would you have to bother people with a group message?
I use the message to determine who is not active; therefore not aiding me. Then I unfriend all inactive players.Then why would you have to bother people with a group message?
Seriously, dude, if they're aiding you they're active. And you can find that out by aiding through Town Hall. Thus making the sending of the spam "are you active" message simply an exercise in unnecessarily annoying your friends. Which is why I unfriend EVERYONE who sends me one of those.
I don’t blame you, but if everyone only aided through the town hall, nobody would aid anyone. I just prefer to take the initiative and aid everyone on my list.
That is correct. Which is one reason I don't aid from TH. The other reason is that I like keeping the Aid and Tavern timers in synch so do both when the tavern is available.
This is patently untrue. I almost always aid through Town Hall, and even in my oldest city (over 3 years) I have no shortage of players on my friends list. The few who are trimmed occasionally are replaced easily without ever sending any spam messages.
When you add a new player to your friends list, you make sure you aid them the first time or two, then there's not a problem. Why would you assume that I (or anyone) would not aid a new friend unless they aided me first? That's just silly. When you maintain your friends list on an ongoing basis, it is easy to remember who the new friends are and make allowances for the first couple of days. This is a fluid game and you don't just do things without considering all the factors. Except unfriending spam message senders...that is the exception to the rule. Just hit "Remove as friend", and move on.
First of all I never assumed that you did not aid new friends, I just stated why I do not aid through the town hall. Also I don’t send these messages to higher players on my list that I see in my tavern every day when I collect. They are only sent to the dregs of my list that I never seem to see. If a player chooses to unfriend me (which has NEVER happened), I could care less. I will find someone else to sit in my tavern.This is patently untrue. I almost always aid through Town Hall, and even in my oldest city (over 3 years) I have no shortage of players on my friends list. The few who are trimmed occasionally are replaced easily without ever sending any spam messages.
When you add a new player to your friends list, you make sure you aid them the first time or two, then there's not a problem. Why would you assume that I (or anyone) would not aid a new friend unless they aided me first? That's just silly. When you maintain your friends list on an ongoing basis, it is easy to remember who the new friends are and make allowances for the first couple of days. This is a fluid game and you don't just do things without considering all the factors. Except unfriending spam message senders...that is the exception to the rule. Just hit "Remove as friend", and move on.
How am I missing points? I think we just have contrasting views about how to handle friends lists and if that offends you sorry.